For the last few years, I have been pretty distant or off the grid with many of my friends. My reason for disconnecting is because I wasn’t in a good place mentally and didn’t think it was fair to them to be neglected or treated unfairly due to my instability in my life. I wanted to get myself together and reenter into their lives a healthy, happy mature woman.
That day came a few months ago when I decided it was time to find out who was still around and who removed me from the roster. Surprisingly, most kept me on while a few chose to wrote me off. If you ever want to know who your REAL friends are, take a break and when you return you will know!
Today, I had a ahance to catch up with a close friend of mine who I found out had recently separated from her husband. I know him from the same place they met. We all worked together at a collection agency about 15 years ago. I was happy for her when they started dating and eventually got married.
She shared with me how she is heart broken, hurting and trying to heal from this emotional life change. And my heart hurts with her. When you care about someone, you don’t want to see them in pain and suffering.. Me, the protective empath wants to go down there and whoop his ass. She’s a great woman, strong, independent, caring, giving, home maker, successful, great mom. WHY? If you didn’t want to be with her why lead her on ALL THESE YEARS??? Grrr…. the anger just drives me to want to fight for her.
The questions came up whether I would side with him or her. DUH…. her! I don’t know him like that and it’s not like we were REAL friends (he and I) so the obvious answer is her. Sorry bud…. but not sorry. So for all of you out there mending a broken heart, virtual hugs!!